We all know that today's world can be a bit cold. That's not to say that it's actively negative in any way. People live fast-paced lives and therefore do not always pay the attention they want to themselves or their friends.
One of the easiest ways to keep ourselves happy and healthy is by striving to see more positivity in our daily lives.
Self-encouragement is a considerable part of one's character building and progressing in a competitive world.
It helps to realize your goals and stay on the right track to achieve them. It's also connected with creativity, learning, and much-deserved rest.
Here we aim to give you some ideas on using that to your advantage.
Positive Questions and Why They Are Important
When you think about it, asking questions is extremely important - even as kids, this is one of the first things we learn.
And later in life, we often judge how much one has understood from a particular subject based on their questions.
Figuring out what you want to ask means you know what you need help with, so you can receive more specific advice.
Answering questions is just as valuable as it helps you create awareness, as well as helping you focus on the details you find interesting.
Integrating attention to both the question and the reason behind it will set you up for more lasting success.
● What good thing happened to me today?
Small things often go unnoticed in a fast-paced environment causing us to miss out on moments of positivity.
A compliment from a stranger or the way your coffee tastes just right today are really nothing special, yet they help you realize that the world can be a kind place and that there's often something you can appreciate. This question enables you to focus on these small things you have no control over yet are lovely nonetheless.
● What good thing was I responsible for today?
This works in favor of the idea "Give what you want to receive." Being a kind person to others makes you happier too, and it helps you create more win/win experiences.
The kinder people are to the others, the kinder the world is as a whole. So you can use this question as a motivation to do one generous, sweet or thoughtful thing for another human being each day.
● What and who am I grateful for?
This question allows you to focus on more significant aspects of your life. The ability to live in a place you enjoy and/or to have close friends is incredible when you think about how big the world is.
On a cosmic scale, it's even more incredible - millions and millions of years, and we can survive through doing what we love and have excellent connections regardless of distance.
If that's not something to be grateful for, I don't know what is! When answering this question, try looking at the world as a whole and why you are lucky to live exactly now and exactly here.
● Why do I want to achieve what I've set out to do, and where can I find a source of motivation?
Here, the focus is your reasons for doing something - why you enjoy the work you do and how it makes you a better person.
Knowing why your goals bring you happiness helps you be persistent on your way to achieving them.
Also, suppose you continue asking yourself where you can find motivation or inspiration. In that case, the chances of eventually having more than one source are more prominent, allowing you never to be dependent solely on one thing.
● How can I learn from the mistakes I've made?
Turning a negative into a positive is very important when changing your perspective. If you feel down, it's easy to focus on your mistakes. However, realizing that you can learn from each one assist in not beating yourself up too much.
Some people even go as far as to try and make some mistakes when learning something new, just to understand it better. Even if you don't get to this point, it would still help tremendously not to worry about messing up because we all make mistakes after all.
● What are some values that I want to work on?
Building your character and striving to be a better person will help you make progress in life, and for that, you need to know what drives you.
Values, and what you feel makes up those values, evolve with you. As you have new experiences, you learn and grow, and your perceptions of yourself and the world around you change. Yet the progress you've made remains.
This question helps you find out which direction you want to take yourself based on the values you hold.
By answering it, you both acknowledge the work you've already done and where you want to put in even more effort.
● Am I holding on to something I don't want to, and why?
This is a very specific question because many people tend to carry more regret and fear than they are aware of.
Feeling guilty for past events or being close to toxic people all fall in this category, and it's important to acknowledge it so that you can grow past it.
This is just the first step in a very long journey, yet it's the crucial one everyone can start with because things like these hold you back and stop your progress, and it is our choice whether or not to give them that power.
● What is something I look forward to?
Here you can look at everything you want, big or small. Ranging from something like an upcoming event (going to your favorite coffee shop or a concert you've been waiting for) or a rite of passage in your life (moving to a different country or expanding your hobby). The more stuff you have to look forward to, the better your future outlook is.
● What do I cherish in the people I love, and what can I learn from them?
Here the focus is both towards the outside world and the one within. Answering why you love someone is vital in creating a good relationship. It clarifies many questions you can have in your head about you and them.
Also, the people you love can be a tremendous inspiration!
Here you can focus on both aspects, realizing why the people around you are unique and how they can inspire you to be better.
● What qualities do I have that I love or am proud of?
This question is fundamental - recognizing your inner value helps tremendously in keeping a positive view of yourself. It's much harder for a positive thing to grow out of a negative environment, and asking yourself what you love about yourself helps you give yourself that positive environment.
You can start big or small. You can answer about a different quality every day in detail or all of them simultaneously. Though make sure you ask yourself this question often, especially if you don't have a high opinion of yourself so you can begin building it.
Progress can only happen if it's been allowed to and loving yourself is essential in allowing yourself to be better.
Where to go from here
By answering these questions weekly or daily, you are sure to get to know yourself more and realize what makes you truly happy.
Changing a bad mood isn't always easy. Yet, the world around you and the one inside are excellent sources of inspiration.
Having a clear perspective, progressing, and being grateful are essential to one's growth and inner peace.
With these questions, we aim to remind you that you and everything around you are incredible and that although change can be scary, everyone is strong enough to overcome that fear to be happier and make the world a better place.
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